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52. Perseverance. How to shift into a ‘no-going back’ mode

We’ve been planning an event, for our grandson who has cancer, a rare, aggressive form of brain tumor that is threatening his life. My husband, being an all or nothing kind of guy, decided it should be a big event at a prestigious location to get maximum impact. It’s been causing some stress for all those concerned. Selling tickets, planning, getting donations; it’s a big job! It sure has required some perseverance and faith to follow-through. But it has taught us something; that if you want to make something happen, a no-going-back approach is required.

One of the most challenging things with any project is following through, not giving up. So many fears and doubts creep in around the unknowns when you’re creating anything new and it’s easy to let fear rule your decisions. The thing is, my husband is probably the most fearless creator I know. He plows on regardless. He either buries his fears or just plain bowls them over and charges forward. Hi perseverance is impressive. Pretty much everyone around him has tried to convince him to change the date, but he would ‘t listen. The thing is, you have to make that solid, conscious, no going back decision to really make things work. If you’re tackling problems from a half-hearted approach, people around you will feel the doubt, the universe will sense that you’re not serious and things won’t fall into place. If you approach your project with certainty, confidence and a clear plan, then things will come together in the end.

What I know is, you have to make that solid, conscious, no going back decision to really make things work. If you’re tackling problems from a half-hearted approach, people around you will feel the doubt, the universe will sense that you’re not serious and things won’t fall into place. If you approach your project with certainty, confidence and a clear plan, then things will come together in the end. I’m not as resilient as he is when it comes to making something happen, so I admire his tenacity and approach.

What I do know is that it’s important to get yourself into the right frame of mind to move forward. Every day. That means re-committing, re-strengthening your resolve and preparing yourself for your day ahead. Some days, I wake feeling less than fearless, so I need to shift any feelings of doubt that are holding me back and move into a confident mode – here’s what I do.

  1. Recognise a feeling of doubt, fear or anxiety. I can see it really clearly now. It hits me like a brick and I know instantly I have to shift it before I move into my day.
  2. Don’t let it take hold. What I DON’T do is lie there thinking. I don’t ‘feed the feelings’ I take action to nip them in the bud.
  3. That usually means moving. Doing something. I refer to my list of trusty actions including;
    • A cup of tea – always has that calming effect.
    • Writing is a great way to shift the feelings by talking about them to myself. Now I write here, which helps even more because I know I’m actually producing something productive for others to learn from too!
    • Walking. Helps me release any stuck feelings and shake the night’s darkness away from my mind. Just moving helps me feel better.
    • Any kind of activity in my body. Shifting my focus from my mind to my body takes the focus away from thoughts and worries into action.
  4. Make a plan for the day. Get calm, still and quiet – go within. Eliminate the chatter from the outside world, the influences, the voices and listen to my own heart. What I know to be true.
  5. Review my ‘Big Why’, my ‘Big Vision’ and tune in with the real motivation behind what I’m doing so I can make fresh plans to take solid action towards it. When the why is strong enough, the what takes care of itself.

By now, I find my perseverance has returned and I can take solid action uninhibited by fear and doubts.