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51. Feeling stressed? Worrying by looking too far ahead?

you're not stressed when you live in the moment

Lately, I’ve been feeling a bit stressed. Things are getting busier and it’s natural to feel a little frazzled trying to manage everything, but I used to manage a lot of stuff every day in my business, and that’s one of the reasons I left that business and downsized. So the thought of having so much stuff to manage every day again is a little scary.

I hear this issue often with my clients. Too much to do. No spare time. Feeling overwhelmed – feeling stressed.  I had a day like that yesterday, I saw my to-do list and it looked so long and intimidating I wondered how on earth I would get it all done and it kinda ruined my day. I spent more time worrying about what was in front of me that I couldn’t focus on the bit that I was doing today! I feel like I should know this stuff already, and it sounds elementary for some, but it’s one of those things that needs attention regularly – to bring yourself back to the moment. I feel better now I have clarity on my thoughts again, here’s what I did to feel better:

This morning, as I awoke with familiar feelings of anxiety I knew I needed to address it so it didn’t affect my day today as well! One day like that is enough! So I went to my trusty list of mind-tools and picked a couple of my favourite: Meditation and writing. I do this regularly, probably not regularly enough, but this morning I quietened my mind and asked myself 4 simple questions: Who Am I? What do I want? What is my purpose? What am I grateful for? As I meditated, simple thoughts came into my mind that improved my state of mind and instantly lifted my spirits. And then I began to write about that thought to embed it – and share it – and this is what I wrote!

The answer that popped into my mind that instantly made me feel better was: “I can help people one at a time” that’s OK. I can start small, that’s OK. I don’t need to stress about having lots of people on my list, or lots of people to manage, I can start small, that’s OK. Having an expectation for a certain number was making me feel stressed and worried – but the truth is I like small numbers and I’m sure the people on my course will be very happy with that because they will get more one-on-one time with me!

So I was more worried about the result, which meant I wasn’t fully immersed in the moment, or the doing that was required to get the result. So simple I know, but so difficult when you’re stuck in a feeling that is not productive. Everything is always OK when you come back to the moment.